Voices from Cyberspace

One nice thing about having a text-heavy website is that I receive thoughtful, articulate emails that are a pleasure to read.

I hope that things are going well for you and your lady-love... and now for something kinda kooky... I was inspired by this when I saw "The Rat Pack" on HBO the other night... have a laugh!

"White Ropes" (sung to the chorus of "High Hopes")
He's got white ropes, Jon's got those white ropes, he's got those
hog-tyin', tight bindin', whiiitte ropes, So go tie Lorelei, you're such a
lucky guy, life with her is not a drag, Oops! Don't forget to fasten her ballgag!
Although, I prefer that she'd be tape gagged....

Yes! It's crap I know, but I just thought it would be funny! Haha! Have a great day!

I would like to thank you for a very well done site. I just came across it after searching Yahoo for a site that did not assault my senses, and your site was exactly is what I was looking for. It did take a while to find, however. 99% of the Bondage Sites I came across were very violent, full of sexual violence against women. There was no way that I would even consider checking them out. I would also also like to thank you for the hyper-link to Harmony. If you have not read their opening Philosophy Statement. I could not have put my feeling any better.

I think when the general public thinks of Bondage, they automatically think of: Torture, Sexual assault, and other scenes that are not socially acceptable, however it's sites such as yours that run against that presumption. Once again thanks for have putting up a soft, safe, gentle, site that not only does not assault my sense of dignity, however at the same time you have very beautiful models, but everything is done in good taste. Keep up the good work.

NICE LOOKING BITCH, I WOULD LIKE TO SEE MORE OF HER. BUT IT DOES LOOK LIKE YOU ARE TOO EASY ON HER.

If you become a Keyholder, you could see nude photos of Lorelei. There really isn't any more to see after that. She's sort of a small person.

I should also note that Lorelei's not a bitch. I don't know if that's your standard term for women, or your wife or girlfriend or mother, but it certainly doesn't apply to all women.

Re "YOU ARE TOO EASY ON HER" -- A lot of the material on the site is requests by Keyholders, and is not as demanding as what Lorelei usually asks for herself. Actually, I've done some incredibly stringent bondage with her, particularly for her KISS videos from Close-Up (particularly "The Pearl Necklace" and "Busted"). I'd bet my next paycheck it's a lot tougher than anything you could take.
Best regards,
- Jon

Very interesting to find someone so attractive this interested in bondage. Thought it was mostly a male thing.

I just wanted you to know what a difference it made to me to run across your wonderful and sensitive site. I am a little older than you and I guess grew up about the same, thinking something was really wrong with me. What few times I mustered the courage to hint to a girlfriend, about maybe playfully tying her up, were absolute disasters. One girl even told the entire college class what I had said to her after she broke off our relationship, and I left the school. (This was in the early '70s, not the most open-minded scenario).

So I gave up long ago and have now been married for years to an otherwise wonderful woman who I would never have dreamed of breathing a word of this to.

So when I blundered onto your page and saw that sweet, vulnerable picture of you sitting on your cartoon bed, and read your courageous diary and thoughts which you have shared with us all on the Net, I just broke down and wept for the first time in so, so many years. I cannot begin to tell you how much it meant to me. To suddenly feel differently about myself finally at 45 and realize that there really are beautiful, intelligent, fun women who would have enjoyed a relationship with a young man like me. Jesus, I am crying again as I type this! I have not allowed anything to move me so much in decades! (Okay, I ALMOST cried when I saw TITANIC this summer).

Perhaps I will never give up that lingering fantasy of a lovely, curvy lady begging me to tie her up, even though in my heart I know it is probably too late for me now; but your site is the next best thing. God bless you for having the guts to share such sensitive, thoughtful, and passionate things from your heart with the rest of us. I will always remember your lovely face, sitting barefooted on your bed, as the girl I would have given anything in my power to have known when I was a troubled young man growing up in the redneck South.

Since I was a young boy, I have been fascinated by the sight of bound women, but, having been raised in a very strict environment, I always had nagging thoughts that something was very wrong with me. Over the years, I have tried to share my fascination with the women I loved, sometimes successfully, sometimes not.

I have been married for 17 years to a fabulous woman, whom I love very deeply. She has never denied me when I wished to tie her up, but we have discussed our feelings, and I know that she finds bondage absolutely boring -- I can accept that, although I might wish it otherwise.

At any rate, your tips and techniques have made things more enjoyable for me, and less uncomfortable for her.

Once again, I'd just like to say thanks. One doesn't often see a woman smile through the gag -- not in reality, at any rate.

Subject: Enclosed: One (1) tube of Psyche SuperGlue

Please use enclosed psyche superglue to prevent incipient nervous breakdown. There are many of us out here who would miss you and your great works immensely.

I think that the simple and honest way you put forward your ideas on bondage play is very refreshing. So often information about bondage is presented in a very stand-offish way -- a way that almost tries to turn away people that never have considered it, instead of presenting it in an approachable light. I have never read such a straightforward, non-intellectualizing piece about play as the one you wrote. Thanks -- it's writing like that that encourages me to bring my fun sex fantasies into my love life, instead of trying not to "scare" whoever I'm with.

I just read the recent posting by Jon Woods at your site. What a prolific career you have had!

At the very start Jon mentions you're being attracted to Kelsie's curvy body type. I must agree with you. I am an avid collector of Playboy magazines and must agree that the past centerfolds interest me the most. It seems that those girls were truly 'the girl-next-door' type and that they had all sorts of bumps and curves. Compare that to the centerfold today who look so glamorous, but unreal and are usually fit and trim, like they just came out of a health club commercial. To each his own I guess.

If you ever get the chance, watch Seven Year Itch. When Marilyn Monroe makes her entrance she is wearing skin tight polka dot dress. Some may say she was a bit plump. So be it. But when she walks up the stairs I get shivers up and down my spine.

I shoot fetish photography and I'm intent on marketing my images either to publishers or on the web in some fashion. But as I study the online market, I am a bit distraught and confused by what I believe is a rampage of copyright infringement against the three main B&D/fetish publishers. The alt.binaries.pictures.bondage newsgroup has always been a place to scoop up some free images, but it seems to have turned into a blizzard of scanners who run auto-post applications loaded with nothing but old and not-so-old "Harmonies". What the heck is this? Have these scanners aquired the rights from Harmony to proliferate all of their stuff? (As if I need an answer to that question...)

It's been suggested that these scanners are abiding by the principles of the Fair Use Doctrine which makes provisions for use of otherwise copyrighted material. But when I see these scanners posting ads to sell CDs of their scanned Harmony pix and see them becoming major image suppliers to many of the new paysites, I wonder if these people are employees of Harmony or are just smug criminals. I am genuinely concerned about this because it changes everything I previously considered about my own images.

The scanners can make a killing on this stuff in CD sales and as vendors to paysites. Funny... yesterday I read a nasty post from a very pissed-off scanner guy who was blasting a webmaster for coming to the newsgroup and taking all of his uploaded scans and then posting ads for his pay website in the newsgroup. He talked like he was the one being infringed upon!

All of these scanners somehow have become self-appointed B&D artists and gurus! I doubt they've never touch a tittie in their lives much less engage a beautiful woman into the unspeakable rites of B&D, but I shouldn't say these things... sorry. But WHAT'S WITH THIS FREE-FOR-ALL ON HARMONY'S PIX, LORELEI?

Couldn't've said it better myself. As many of you know, my boyfriend is employed by Harmony, so he's required to spend many hours each week researching copied images on the Web. Since this work often goes into overtime, it directly affects how much time I get to spend with my boyfriend for REAL bondage and fun. So it does tend to give me a frowny-face!

The only paysite that should have Harmony images is the one at Harmony's website.

Dear Webmaster of ( - ),

You have accidentally posted some of my JPGs on your website. All JPGs on my site are copyrighted and are not public domain. (If you need more info, read the copyright statement on my website.)

Delete any bedroombondage image which has been altered or cropped to conceal the copyright URL. My images cannot be used as advertising on the Usenet. Do not post any more bedroombondage images to the Usenet. Thank you.

The webmaster's single-sentence reply:

I do allow others to enjoy my images: here on my site! I think he meant it was a shame I didn't want him to profit from my hard work instead of myself.

We are born this way and only then can it be understood and only by people who are that way not just pretending. We have more in common mentally. We can talk to each other at a level only dreamed of by all of the people who e-mail you with questions, questions, requests after request. This must be proven to you I know.

In time, we will be asking for information from one another only because our level of communication will be unlike anything you have ever seen or experienced yet. I have read all of your site and I would like to give you a starter present (written) which you can use on your site or not. But it gives you an indication that you are talking to someone who understands you and can make conversation interesting and compelling.

Your name is Lorelei and you are a paraphiliac. A lover of paraphilias (exhibitionism, voyeurism and S/M bondage). Forget your horoscope and do not label yourself as "weird" or "kinky". Your website is your sustainment of creativity where you transcend self-consciousness and your ego to open up to the mysterious and inspirational. You were born with an impulsive and sensation-seeking personality. You are "lucky". Your impulses were being "in touch" with your unconscious self and this led you to act without self-consciousness. Lacking self-deception you acted on impulses that became euphoric. This led to you acting on your subjective impulses by turning them into objective forms of art worthy of having your name on them. You are "talented". Paradoxical visual creativity that you thought others may think were absurd and irrational, but for you, are nevertheless, full of meaning going beyond anything you have created. You are surrounded, therefore not lonely and now you know someone understands your core, therefore you should not ever think you are alone.

You are "in touch" "lucky" and "talented" to name a few. I can talk about your inner core more directly and in ways you can understand because I understand you as good or better than you do yourself. I would hope that you would like to talk further about bondage and that our conversations could be mentally stimulating as I hope this one was.

I found your homepage looking for bondage in the web. It is the best page I found till today, because it is so personal.

If my english "limps" don't be surprised. I'm a german female. My knowledge about the english language grows daily exploring the net. But sometimes I see, it isn't much enough.

With your page you have answered a lot of questions about bondage. Your faq is the best about that subject. You don't answer the questions with "somebody said" or "the psychology said" but with your own experience and with the experience of people you know personally.

I gave a lot of thought to both what you've said and to your courage in putting up your site and discussing so honestly your true feelings for all to see. So I had a long visit with my wife this week, the first about this in our 20-year marraige. I should never have put it off! She was so open-minded and understanding. Your site was the catalyst, Lorelei. Your own example gave me the impetus to discuss what I felt inside for so long. I love my wife dearly and could never contemplate experimenting further with bondage without her being completely aware of it. I was astounded when she told me that for years at a time, she had felt so bad about her health being an obstacle between us and how she hated the guilt and pressure she placed on herself. I did not know what to even say! She is a precious jewel. Anyway, God bless you for all you have done, Lorelei, in sharing yourself and your thoughts with us all.

Due to this site's emphasis on dialogue and communication, I routinely quote from, and make references to, the emails I receive. To respect privacy, writers are not identified. If you prefer something different for your emails (no quoting at all, or quoting with your name, nickname and/or email address given) feel free to mention your preference in your emails.